Friday, April 17, 2009

A Clarification

I realize that, more likely than not, I've generally come across as a righteous, judgemental wedding-phobic wench.

The thing is, I think weddings can be a spectacular and wonderful event - heck, they SHOULD be an incredibly monumental day in your life.

I am not a wedding hater. Not by any stretch of the imagination.

I tear up with the best of them everytime I hear that bridal march. And I've discovered there really is something to be said for a long white dress swirling around your ankles.

My frusturation rests primarily with the wedding industry. And those brides who fall prey to the wedding industry's conniving ways.

My wedding freakiness stems from the fact that people tend to go along with what they think they should be doing, in an effort to keep up with the Jones', rather than creating a unique, memorable, and personal event that truly represents the couple's wishes.

So, my apologies for ever coming across as a high and mighty bride who looks down upon the foolish save-the-date-sending peasants.

More than anything it has to do with a mindset - one which recognizes the importance of the Marriage, puts the wedding itself in an appropriate context, and allows the bride and groom to enjoy their day (whatever that day may include), without stressful mayhem or billions of dollars.
So marry on, my friends. Just remember the point of it all. Remember it's all about the love.

{Photo via Rock 'n Roll Bride}

1 comment:

adamtree said...

I think a lot of women consider the wedding to be all about themselves. Forget love, or husbands, or marriage.

Thank God my wife wasn't that way. But I was smart enough to stand back and let her have her way on all the wedding plans.

-James A Woods